Kurt looked down into his mug with a smile at this. He was really, really aware how difficult the distance could be. It had worried him from the start and he hoped he and Blaine could manage to keep a flow on things and make it work. It was terrifying for him to think it might be that which could lead to him losing Blaine. So far, so good, but Santana here was prime evidence that just when you thought you had something right, it could all go really, really wrong. "Blaine's just naturally caring and compassionate. Not everyone is. I know I lucked out. It's been like that with us from day one. Even when he was still a stranger, he was caring about me and wanting to help. It blew me away. I think Brittany's just... well, simple. I know you care about her, I do. But I think you're more like her minder and babysitter than you are her other half, you know? That's got to take it's toll. It's more like a sibling dynamic than a romantic one."
"You know the biggest teller of a relationship, darling? It's how it holds up when the foundations under it shaken. When change happens, when things go from being the norm to something entirely new. If it can hold up, then it's got the staying power but if it starts to fold at the first few turns? It's time to stop and wonder if what you really want and need long-term. Sexuality is such a tough thing, San. It's something that literally plays into every single facet of your life and your future. It makes you who you are, and prepares you for who you want to be. But you have to understand it yourself before anyone else can know who you are and be a consistent part of your life. You haven't had the chance to understand it or understand you. It was just the realisation you like girls, and what it means to be a lesbian, and then Brittany conveniently on hand to be the girlfriend that gave you this... this cause to jump on to convince yourself being a lesbian was okay. I have a girlfriend, everyone! Judge me on that and I'll fuck you up like the bitch I am. I know that was your coping mechanism and that's okay. Sure, you could have dealt with it a little better, but you got there in the end. You're not a lesbian because of Brittany, darling. You're a lesbian because of you. And yes, you do deserve to be happy. But you need to spread your wings and unchain yourself from the comfort zone you have built around yourself of Brittany as the convenient girlfriend so you don't have to face the rest of what it means to be gay," he insisted quietly and then gave her a small point. "Because that's why it's so hard. You haven't found yourself yet. You found justification in liking girls dating Brittany, but you haven't let yourself truly understand it yet."
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"You know the biggest teller of a relationship, darling? It's how it holds up when the foundations under it shaken. When change happens, when things go from being the norm to something entirely new. If it can hold up, then it's got the staying power but if it starts to fold at the first few turns? It's time to stop and wonder if what you really want and need long-term. Sexuality is such a tough thing, San. It's something that literally plays into every single facet of your life and your future. It makes you who you are, and prepares you for who you want to be. But you have to understand it yourself before anyone else can know who you are and be a consistent part of your life. You haven't had the chance to understand it or understand you. It was just the realisation you like girls, and what it means to be a lesbian, and then Brittany conveniently on hand to be the girlfriend that gave you this... this cause to jump on to convince yourself being a lesbian was okay. I have a girlfriend, everyone! Judge me on that and I'll fuck you up like the bitch I am. I know that was your coping mechanism and that's okay. Sure, you could have dealt with it a little better, but you got there in the end. You're not a lesbian because of Brittany, darling. You're a lesbian because of you. And yes, you do deserve to be happy. But you need to spread your wings and unchain yourself from the comfort zone you have built around yourself of Brittany as the convenient girlfriend so you don't have to face the rest of what it means to be gay," he insisted quietly and then gave her a small point. "Because that's why it's so hard. You haven't found yourself yet. You found justification in liking girls dating Brittany, but you haven't let yourself truly understand it yet."